Men and women are different. Our love language is not predominantly one of self expression. There are plenty of books on this topics from linguistic professors , evolutionary psychologists, spiritual thinkers, couples counselors alike. Pico Iyer’s great love of Leonard Cohen was expressed by them sitting next to each other drinking brandy and watching the stars in silence in Cohen’s suburban backyard. Or in Merton’s silent retreats with fellow monks. .
Our band of brothers often bond in adversity and intense physical activity.
Great article! A lot of the things you wrote resonated with me. It is true how blind men are to how patriarchy does a number on them. The perceived role of a man is to be someone whose emotions are consistently repressed, which leads to him being unable to form deep relationships with anyone. Thank you for writing this. Hopefully, this will start a conversation in a better direction!
Men and women are different. Our love language is not predominantly one of self expression. There are plenty of books on this topics from linguistic professors , evolutionary psychologists, spiritual thinkers, couples counselors alike. Pico Iyer’s great love of Leonard Cohen was expressed by them sitting next to each other drinking brandy and watching the stars in silence in Cohen’s suburban backyard. Or in Merton’s silent retreats with fellow monks. .
Our band of brothers often bond in adversity and intense physical activity.
https://arunsimha.substack.com/p/pain-therapy-for-broken-men
Also see Esther Perel’s paradox of masculinity video embedded in my post.
https://arunsimha.substack.com/p/a-man-is-not-a-village
I do not believe in love.
But
That doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
I love you Amit
Typical Ajay
I like your writing. I love you.
To have loved and lost is better than to have not loved at all! 😘
Where have you disappeared brother? Nothing for 4 months I am missing your fantastic writing. Please get back the juice 🙏
Great article! A lot of the things you wrote resonated with me. It is true how blind men are to how patriarchy does a number on them. The perceived role of a man is to be someone whose emotions are consistently repressed, which leads to him being unable to form deep relationships with anyone. Thank you for writing this. Hopefully, this will start a conversation in a better direction!
"Men have bigger social groups in their 20s than women. By the time men get into their 50s, they’re nonexistent."
In which countries and cultures?
Loved article. Love you too mate :)
One more flavour of Anne Dillard’s quote “ The way we do anything is the way we do everything” . It’s from “Creative Act” by Rick Rubin.