I think this is a skill that can be learnt through studying aspects of psychology.
Learning how to regulate my emotions by questioning the beliefs that led to them is the single biggest thing I have learnt in my life(yet). It has transformed me as a person. I stumbled across Cognitive behaviour therapy when I was seeing a therapist because of depression, ended up reading Albert Ellis' books on the topic.
Your emotions and your thoughts are driven not only by what happens in the world but the beliefs you have ingrained. If you have seen inside out 2, then you are familiar with the idea of how early childhood experiences can form beliefs that if not questioned can steer your life, often in unpleasant directions.
"I need people to like me to survive."
"I'm not good enough."
"I will only be loved if I am productive."
While these beliefs may have served their purpose at the time- their utility has an expiry date. The ability to question them will help you let go of them.
A side effect of developing these skills is enormous gains in empathy and understanding why other people behave the way that they do. You will start seeing trends as to how people's environment shapes the beliefs they have about the world and themselves. It will be harder to pass judgement on people when you can see their arc.
What a beautifully honest piece about how life teaches us! I love how it captures that mix of stumbling into wisdom and wishing we'd found it sooner - it's so deeply human. And there's such warmth in wanting to create a more purposeful path for others to learn these insights. Thank you for all that you write, Amit! <3
I am a fan of your work with respect to the podcast, your writings, recommendations and your ideas (some where I would want to add-on, dispute or question you as well). The course is a little too expensive for me and I wonder what it would be like to learn from your experiences in a more catalogued manner. Still, just wanted to let you know that in a world of impositions, I find your content as an escape into introspection and relearning. Thanks for everything that you do.
You know, it’s such an incredible skill to have cultivated— to write like you speak.
I’ve listened to hundreds of hours of SATU, I’ve met you in person even, and when I read your writing, I literally read it in your voice.
I love how congruent it all is :)
Also— I love this so much, I can’t wait to join sometime soon!
Thanks. That's actually true for all the good writers I know. :)
Self-reflection and understanding oneself while we try and understand the world is an important skill.
Sometimes, we do pick this up along the way, rather stumble into it through self-talk, but we often forget to hone it when we become busy with life.
Yup. It's the intentionality that is difficult.
I think this is a skill that can be learnt through studying aspects of psychology.
Learning how to regulate my emotions by questioning the beliefs that led to them is the single biggest thing I have learnt in my life(yet). It has transformed me as a person. I stumbled across Cognitive behaviour therapy when I was seeing a therapist because of depression, ended up reading Albert Ellis' books on the topic.
Your emotions and your thoughts are driven not only by what happens in the world but the beliefs you have ingrained. If you have seen inside out 2, then you are familiar with the idea of how early childhood experiences can form beliefs that if not questioned can steer your life, often in unpleasant directions.
"I need people to like me to survive."
"I'm not good enough."
"I will only be loved if I am productive."
While these beliefs may have served their purpose at the time- their utility has an expiry date. The ability to question them will help you let go of them.
A side effect of developing these skills is enormous gains in empathy and understanding why other people behave the way that they do. You will start seeing trends as to how people's environment shapes the beliefs they have about the world and themselves. It will be harder to pass judgement on people when you can see their arc.
The reason the said quote is attributed to Lennon - is because the line forms part of the lyrics of his single "Beautiful Boy" - https://youtu.be/1BZkYfqa4Fs?si=9EmlrfhnN5QYsjob
What a beautifully honest piece about how life teaches us! I love how it captures that mix of stumbling into wisdom and wishing we'd found it sooner - it's so deeply human. And there's such warmth in wanting to create a more purposeful path for others to learn these insights. Thank you for all that you write, Amit! <3
Hi Amit,
I am a fan of your work with respect to the podcast, your writings, recommendations and your ideas (some where I would want to add-on, dispute or question you as well). The course is a little too expensive for me and I wonder what it would be like to learn from your experiences in a more catalogued manner. Still, just wanted to let you know that in a world of impositions, I find your content as an escape into introspection and relearning. Thanks for everything that you do.
- Jabra Fan
The art in your thumbnail is so gorgeous! Like wow!